GBBG wrote:Eh, no problem. I'm still very much a closeted asexual IRL so am not used to taking flak for it like you have. In that context I understand your reaction.
Thanks for understanding.
GBBG wrote:Eh, no problem. I'm still very much a closeted asexual IRL so am not used to taking flak for it like you have. In that context I understand your reaction.
Licklash wrote:Fatal Vore? On here? That happens on dA all the time but on Eka's? Ooo...Anyways, It's good to see that they're gone now, Eka's doesn't need people like them. But...Why would they jump on you for such a common preference? Loads of people like fatal!
I think that when you mean "Sick garbage" you mean "Extreme or grotesque content", just so nobody leaps on you, but I understand what you mean. You're making some decent points.
Some people do get in a bit of a knot, but as long as you continue you calm them down and explain that maybe they're being a tad oversensitive, it's all cool.
Chameleonette wrote:Countless times.
When I first delved into the fetish about four years ago, M/F vore was pretty much non-existent. At the time, I didn't understand why, since I was new to the vore community, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. As I was soon to find, liking male preds and especially M/F vore was largely unwelcome, looked down upon, spoken out against spitefully, made fun of, etc. And instead of turning tail and leaving (though I did consider it at the time), I decided to grab the bull by the horns. I questioned the lack and immediately decided that I was going to start creating the content I wanted to see, not just for myself, but for others like me who might come into the fetish and see that their preferences are not embraced and have trouble finding people to enjoy them with.
Well, being outspoken and loud about my interests in M/F vore turned me into something of a target. It was especially bad on tumblr. Although there were also people here who would also complain---including someone who would post in the threads that I made about male preds and complain that I made 'too many threads about it', when I made literally 3 in a whole year, and one who eventually got banned for publicly harassing me and saying he even created a new account just for the sake of said harassment. I had some past issues with people posting rude comments on my art at times, too, and being laughed out of Eka's chat years ago when I was looking for male preds to play with my female prey character. But the anonymity that tumblr supplies basically became a platform for people to ridicule me and accuse me of all sorts of things, including things like 'breeding rapists' with my content, being sexist/misogynist, countless complaints and even citings of 'proof' of why female preds should be the only 'true' preds, claims that I'm against women, a gross and terrible person, and someone who even said they would imagine me in vore scenarios as a pred and get off to it. Needless to say, it wasn't a very fun time. I left my vore tumblr and Eka's several times for several months at a time during some of the rougher bouts. Eventually, I got to the point where I just started to sass everyone who sent me nasty messages or delete them entirely. And at that point, I was committed. What these people aimed to do was to discourage me and likely stop my content flow of the things they didn't like or want to see. Giving them that would a major mistake, especially since I had a lot of fun making said content and getting all that M/F out there for the niche group of people that enjoyed it.
Things have gotten a lot better since then, although that did go on for several years. But now I know quite a few people who enjoy the same sort of content as me and things are a lot warmer in those groups and in a discord group that a friend of mine created. Now the most discourse I get on tumblr is occasionally someone who takes issue with me liking fatal vore. And that tends to be more of a passive-aggressive thing than the hostility that I met previously for my preferences of M/F.
But yeah, it was a big issue for me when I was first getting started here and for several years after. As a woman who enjoys fantasies of dominant men and loves and enjoys fatal and rather darker aspects of M/F vore (and humanoid preds), my preferences didn't fit very well in a community like this. A lot of people can't differentiate fantasy from reality and thus relate things like enjoying M/F (especially on the fatal side) to things like sexism, anti-feminism, etc. But with perseverance, I've made my place and found other people to enjoy that space with and I enjoy making and sharing content. I don't let the crap get to me anymore, the few times I'm faced with it any longer. And although I have also heard from several people over the years who struggled to get out of lurking because they were afraid of backlash and being unwelcome for M/F prefs, things have gotten infinitely better.
The real key is, when someone shames you for your prefs and what you like---love it harder. Make more content. Discuss it more. Ignore them, sass them, let them know that they can't stop you from enjoying what you enjoy. Eventually they're going to give up and move on. For anyone that has dealt with any type of hostility or rudeness like that, the best thing you can do is not give them what they want. Don't let them have power over you and your actions or to chase you out or stop you from being vocal about what you like. Yeah, it sucks when people send you nasty messages or parade around loudly about disliking what you like, etc. But they can't stop you. And you can and will find other people that enjoy what you enjoy if you look hard enough. Keep your head up!
DevourerOfLolis wrote:So far, the only time I've ever been personally shamed for my specific tastes in vore was on this site.
I once read and favorited this one M/F vore story that I rather liked. A few days later though, the writer of that story PM'd me and told me to remove his story from my favorites. The reason was that he didn't "want his stuff associated with my kinda people". Said he looks through people that favorites his stuff and didn't want a specific crowd following him. When I asked him to elaborate, he said he didn't want people who are into death, digestion and underaged prey following him and it's "his right as an author" to tell me to remove his story. Needless to say, I removed that favorite and decided to never look at that guy's stuff again.
Granted, when considering the shit that I'm into, I'm honestly shocked that that's the only time anyone ever personally shamed me for my fetishes. Not sure if I'm just lucky or it has something to do with the fact that I tend to keep quiet a lot.
IddlerItaler wrote:In complete fairness, if any name popping up in a notifications feed were to shock an author, "DevourerOfLolis" would be amongst the likelier candidates. Not all authors have the gift of anonimity either, and they can be paranoid about getting witch-hunted across multiple sites for being lolicons or suspected lolicons even if the suspicion is only "Hey, a user named DevourerOfLolis left a comment praising this artist's Eka's profile, clearly the artist makes loli vore content!"
Still sorry for your experience getting attacked over your preferences.
TinyCalico wrote:If I talk about how much I like fatal, I get shit from people saying that the stuff I like is cruel/sadistic and how I must be a psychopath to enjoy that type of content. If I say I like safe, I get complaints about how it’s not realistic and I’m a pussy for not being able to enjoy this character dying horribly (even though I enjoy fatal in a good amount of scenarios).
BlackWidow552 wrote:If you don't like the idea that is fine, I can accept that, but to insult, denigrate, attack and label people who view underage as sick and twisted, when you're fantasizing about either being eaten or eating someone else is damn hypocritical.
thirdaltaccount wrote:No matter how much we may want to romanticize it or justify it as nature, we're all slightly unhinged and judging someone is throwing a stone in one very brittle glass house.