by ShadesofBlack » Tue Sep 27, 2016 2:36 am
I can definitely say that I hesitated to cast my vote, and further to comment. I've gotten to feeling pretty safe here on the portal, for the most part, but the instinct is still there to recoil and not involve myself when there is a "and would you want to do it with me, like in rp?" kind of thing, because of the possibility that someone might demand "why not" or demand a reason for my rejection if I said no, or try to hold me to doing it if I said yes and then things were not going as well as I'd hoped. It's a sort of self-defense instinct, and it's hard to tell sometimes when to ignore it and believe that another person will be objective, or trust it because... well, I've seen plenty of cases of people not being objective and respectful, but rather jumping down the throat of the first female responder they think might be within their reach (or interest.) I'm not trying to scold you for putting yourself out there, and there are women who might like that boldness. But please understand that doing so in the same breath that you ask people to "anonymously" poll their own interests may really come off as baiting, and may alter the results. Especially if you then call out anyone on what they voted.
It wouldn't surprise me too much if the proportions on this are skewed toward men, given the poll results we've seen for ratios of people who ID as prey/pred/switch/spectator, and the above mentioned observance that... a lot of guys are into vagina and the feminine end of the gender spectrum. My own preferences are probably a bit more of a niche, since I basically grew up knowing I was into girls, and didn't realize I was somewhat attracted to some parts of the male gender spectrum until later. But both being into girls, and being into nearly all role-types mix together to make my interest. Where if we postulate that straight is the mainstream majority sexual preference, the statistics that there are way more prey here than preds mean it's very likely that the majority of folk here who enjoy unbirth (sexually speaking) are men. I don't think it's impossible for that to be wrong, just improbable.
That said, it also wouldn't surprise me too much if there are a lot of women out there who could be interested in unbirth, given the numbers of women I have seen/heard who enjoy large insertions, feeling full, and also the effect that doing these things has on partners who are into it (and watchers for those who enjoy being in the adult entertainment industry.) For me, the idea of unbirthing has always been a mix of several kinks, one of which being sexually related power. The power to hide and contain something or someone is big, and can be used all sorts of ways. But I feel like that would have it's own appeal to the women who like to play such roles, who find the receiving of such sexual attention to be empowering. I have had a friend or two (I really only ever bring up my kinks with really really close trusted friends, and I don't have many of those) kindof go "ooooh... I should look into that sometime, it sounds like fun" when I told them that one of my big fantasy kinks was large insertion... of a whole sex partner. The statistics we've seen so far here at the portal (and again, there may be more women than vote in these polls) have shown so far that there are a much larger proportion of male users than female. So the statistics may more represent a ratio of users on this site who are willing to admit to being into unbirth, than a ratio of men to women everywhere.
Also please, no one take my above statement to mean that you should try to convince women that they are into unbirthing. Sometimes, people are into things and don't know it yet, or could be into things. But shoving it at them will almost always make them want to avoid it. It could ruin it for them for ages. I've only brought it up to people who have voiced an interest in hearing about it, or voiced an interest in something very similar. And in my opinion, that's generally how these things should be brought up.
-Shades
i dont know
thank you for getting back to my question!
