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Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby EquusMinor » Fri Jul 15, 2022 6:23 am

Long ago I made the miscalculation of being with and telling the wrong person I was into it and it wrecked my life for a while.
Today I’m married and my wife of 11 years will never know and it’s completely separate from my professional art and life.
What has been your experience?
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby tomsketchit » Fri Jul 15, 2022 10:37 am

I've only had one partner, back when I was in college. Shockingly, she was into basically every kink I was into. Vore was low on her list, but she was into it enough that she was willing to roleplay it. Dated her for three happy years until she broke up with me for reasons unrelated to vore.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby KnightleyPaine » Fri Jul 15, 2022 10:46 am

From this thread:
KnightleyPaine wrote:The sorts of women that exist around me often noses into what I'm into and some might search for the fabled 'guy's porn folder', spiritual successor to the equally mystical 'guy's stash of dirty mags' that preceded this long and venerable tradition.

Basically, not unless the person is close to me to the point of it having a chance to matter. A woman I've let that close to me is very unlikely to judge for that matter. It usually also doesn't really go anywhere, they inevitably latch onto something they find that they think they can replicate to get to me which doesn't tend to be the vore.

I don't have the types of friends that discuss fetishes with any earnesty or personal openness, they have a very crude sense of humor at times but none of it is probing or self-reporting.

To know I'm into vore outside of appropriate context one would have to breach my privacy pretty badly otherwise, since if that weren't the case I'd be the creep.

I'm with you on the professional life part. Art life, depends on the person, I mean rich furries with weird kinks have been paying starving artists through college and I'm all for it even if I don't care about getting close. But since you're talking partner partner, I never base these around deception. I don't even like roleplaying or making casual friends with people and building rapport if the relationship would be built atop a foundation that one knows will unravel over something so inane. But I don't know what skeletons people have in their closet so I'm not one to judge either, but I really don't think vore is the worthwhile type of big bomb, like maybe if you were a government assassin or something like that I'd at least understand (still a lie on you, I said understand, not condone). In my experience, as mentioned, no person who has come close to the point of it becoming relevant has ever had a problem with it, because people who have problems with that have never been the type of that get close to.

This actually reminds me of a scenario that comes up for me a lot. I have a strong discomfort even in online roleplay over partners that don't match my orientation, so I'm forever cursed to ask. A lot of the time, I get the excuse that they've had bad experiences from telling it in the past, but then still try to proceed with roleplay negotiations. Aside of the fact that I'm not comfortable continuing like that anyways - what the fuck is the logic here? You think telling me your sex will potentially make me do bad things, but then you want me in your life with that potential bomb hanging over the entire situation? That's how you guarantee the next time you're honest you'll be punished for it. Are you straight up fucking daft? Like, under the charitable assumption that your past is real, and not an ass-pull excuse, if you tell me, I will either act normally or as whatever sort of creep that one purports this information to trigger, and you can shove me away for the latter with zero social baggage because at that point I'm a stranger, not your friend of months you've been confiding your deepest personal things to or let into your social circle with other friends I can now influence. Or it is an uncomfortable topic for you and I will go about my way. But if someone tries to brush off telling me, but still wants to proceed, I'm forced to assume that either this person is trying to obscure information that will likely make me reject them and desires to proceed based on dishonesty, which is a huge red flag for me no matter what, or they are dumb to the nth degree and never learn from mistakes.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Mokii » Fri Jul 15, 2022 12:00 pm

I don't think there's any particular reason to tell people about your fetishes or kinks that are as obscure as things like vore. I mean if you tell your wife you really like her feet, even if she doesn't get it, she probably wouldn't mind getting feet massages from you.

Vore, on the other hand has basically no real life impact and it's incredibly niche. I have nothing to gain by telling close friends or loved ones that I get sexual gratification from cute characters getting brutally murdered. :b

I have never really felt like kinks on the level of vore were something you needed to come out of the closet with so I'm not sure why people think they need to.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby azazelthedemon15 » Fri Jul 15, 2022 12:20 pm

I told my boyfriend of 8 years about it back around when we started dating. He was supportive of me since he has kinks of his own, so he cannot judge me. He now implements vore roleplay into our sexy time and teases me about how tasty I look and what not >///> kind of lucky of me, I suppose?
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Stanku » Fri Jul 15, 2022 12:43 pm

Think I've told about vore to all the partners whom I've dated for more than a month or so. Never had a problem with it; you can just tell if it's okay telling them about it, and if it's not, I probably wouldn't be dating them at all.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby ThisGuy127 » Fri Jul 15, 2022 1:01 pm

I kinda stand on the real life impact and professional perspective. I've shared the fact with very few people; Including my ex sometime back who turned out to have her own kinks that played into vore teases fairly well. That said, I do use that knowledge as a bit of a measuring stick myself on just how much faith I have in knowing it being harmless outside of someone getting more of my context specific jokes and laughing with me.

Online it's not as big a deal because I have no online presence with people I know in person; Anyone I'd interact with online is already put through a very tight meshed filter on who I am going to even consider interacting with specifically. If they've made it through that filter as my partner now has, vore after the fact doesn't become any more relevant that it's going to be for any given reason. While my partner is not into vore, he doesn't get off put when a wandering preything appears in VRC or discord chats for me to torment. I'd almost draw a parallel to how he is arachnophobic and I actually adore spiders, but as something a bit more impactful. I adore spiders, he knows it, but I know to warn him from anything going on and don't antagonize the fact that they scare the shit out of him. So I'd say sharing the knowledge should rely on the relationship you have with someone, but specifically to the point where it matters, and not further.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby EquusMinor » Fri Jul 15, 2022 3:24 pm

I’m happy for those of you who had supportive partners. I would never wish what happened to me on anyone.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby EquusMinor » Fri Jul 15, 2022 8:52 pm

I wonder if anyone actively seeks out vore partners first. It’s not something you see a lot of on Tinder or Grindr.
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Postby recoome5555 » Sat Jul 16, 2022 9:14 am

IMO keeping any kind of secret from your partner shows distrust in a relationship. Told my partner about it after I knew we were getting serious.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Brainfood » Sat Jul 16, 2022 1:11 pm

I'm probably going to be getting married to my gf who's also into it soon. It took me more than three dozen sexual partners over a lifetime, but I even found someone else I see sometimes (open relationship) who's the only one I've met in person to enjoy post-vore disposal as well as vore.
She's more into like hard vore/cannibalism than soft vore/digestion/disposal like what I'm into but it's not a hard difference to resolve.
If I don't feel like I can tell someone I'm into it, I don't wanna mess around with them in the first place. It helps that I'm queer and so is essentially everyone I get involved with; I don't know that we're kinkier than people in general, but I think we're less repressed about it if we're out of the closet in the first place.
Not a ton of people I've encountered are necessarily into it the way I am with the big round belly art and the tummy sound onomatopoeia etc but I think people being into the dynamic of like, primal hunter/prey is actually extremely common. I think revealing you're into, like, the fatality aspect is probably a lot more concerning to most people than the cartoony belly stuff.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby KnightleyPaine » Sun Jul 17, 2022 7:28 am

EquusMinor wrote:I wonder if anyone actively seeks out vore partners first. It’s not something you see a lot of on Tinder or Grindr.

Connecting on a fetish is fair game, but you should only frontload it if it is really that critical to you, and also you get to be judged by it, not only the fetish itself but by the fact that you're frontloading that sort of information which can further influence how people interpret your intentions and how you see relationships.

I don't, I mean, it's not like I can vore my partners or whatever beyond getting a little nibbly on some hypothetical prey gf that hasn't happened yet.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby jimmersac » Sun Jul 17, 2022 5:08 pm

EquusMinor wrote:Long ago I made the miscalculation of being with and telling the wrong person I was into it and it wrecked my life for a while.
Today I’m married and my wife of 11 years will never know and it’s completely separate from my professional art and life.
What has been your experience?


I told one person. Who when behind my back and told my whole friend group. So that sucked.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby ProfessorET » Sun Jul 17, 2022 6:05 pm

Honestly, it is not important to me that a woman is into my fetishes, it's a bonus but not something I would trade over most things. I'd much prefer a woman that loves me, wants to raise a family with me, is funny and cute and kind, I'd take any of these things over being into one of my fetishes.

My story: I once told a woman, whom I was long distance dating for a few months and had brought into my house, that I was into vore after she asked me what my fetishes were. I explained it to her, and she was pretty non-chalant about it, like she said it was weird but she knew it was all a fantasy so she wasn't upset. Afterwards, she even let me watch her take a piss, which was hot, and in return I let her hold my cock while peeing since that was what she was into. After having her over for a month, I realized she was annoying as hell to be around, that I couldn't tolerate her insane hysterics every single day and that she was overall a terrible, ungrateful person who hated my friends and didn't respect me. I broke up with her, bought her a plane ticket and kicked her out, told her to go back to her parent's house.

Sharing fetishes is great, but even if you're with someone who calls themselves kinky, I'd list vore at the end of a list of fetishes when you're admitting them to each other one by one. Start with something closer to normal sex and work your way up. And don't throw away a wife or husband for a hoe. Look for something deeper than hobbies and fetishes that you and your partner have in common.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby ProfessorET » Sun Jul 17, 2022 6:32 pm

jimmersac wrote:
I told one person. Who when behind my back and told my whole friend group. So that sucked.

I'm sorry to hear that, that's such a raw betrayal of trust, hope you made some better friends.

As for me and my friends, I'm always open about my fetishes with them, and we joke around about them, but they never look at me differently. I'm just glad that my closest friend never told anyone else about the gay experimenting phase of my life, because it's really no longer a serious part of me, just another fetish with no romantic feelings towards it, and I was able to open up about that as well with our friend group once I cleared up my confusion towards it.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Flatheaddog » Tue Sep 20, 2022 1:43 am

bringing this post back to life because I am in a relationship where I have not told my girlfriend about my fetish. I feel terrible, because she has berated vore as a fetish 100 times over and I have always gone along with it, but I shouldn't be hiding this from her. I am just afraid of her outing me to all my friends. She also has very few other people in her life other than me, and I worry that my coming out to her could cause her to feel alone. I should have been honest, I can see that now, but this is the first relationship I have been in and I let my fear control me.

I want to tell her, we've been together for almost 2 years now and have been living together, it's frankly miraculous she doesn't know already. How should I go about this, and what do I do if she rejects this part of me? We live together and I wouldn't want our friends to have to choose a side if we separated over this. Maybe I am just overreacting, I am not sure. The fear, frustration, and guilt are getting to me though. I don't really want vore to be part of our relationship in any way, but I don't know if she'd be willing to be with me if she knew the down right heinous things I jerk off too.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Drudicta » Wed Sep 21, 2022 9:08 pm

I almost always tell people if there is ANY sexual tension between us at all. It helped quickly filter out those that would divorce or dump me if they had ever found out.

So far several people I've either almost dated, or have dated know. My most recent ex I left on good terms with knows. And my current Fiance knows and will from time to time tease me with it. She's very accepting and will share anything relevant she thinks I might like, as I do with anything she may like. We both have things neither are into but may come up online due to other fetishes. Though the one thing I'd REALLY like, is having sex with either of our fetishes on screen.

I've found that I tend to more easily get along with people I can just be right up front with. Which sadly is few, but those few are treasures, sexual or not.
I'm bad at communicating but still like to.
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Re: Telling a partner you’re into Vore.

Postby Bigbellylover » Wed Sep 28, 2022 9:22 pm

My wife knows! At first she didn’t like it but now It doesn’t bother her! The other day she came in the room and told me to listen to her stomach as she lifted her shirt and pressed her big belly to my face! It was amazing!
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