Ways people have felt at peace with their vore fetish

[Vorachist22]

Hi everyone,
I recently came out to my family and have been having a hard time accepting that I have a fetish. I have been to counseling and still feel like I’m a freak. I would love to hear about how you have accepted your fetish.
Thank you,
Vorachist22

[GREGOLE]

Being surrounded by other people who have it. Realizing that most of them are perfectly normal, perfectly reasonable, perfectly well-adjusted people.
Recognizing that the kink is completely harmless if you exercise the barest amount of common sense with it, and can even be a good thing, as it allows certain artists a rich, consistent market for commissions.

While you'll hear horror stories about people being harassed and dehumanized over having kinks, I'd say that our current society for the most part is a lot more accepting that kinks are no big deal. There's disagreement here and there about when and where is appropriate to indulge them, but as a general rule, if you apply the same rules you apply to normal sex talk and respect people's boundaries, you'll be fine.

I mean, once in a while you'll have someone call you a degenerate for drawing a gender combination they don't like. But once in a while you'll also be called a *neanderthal over which Joker you prefer, so that's kinda just the online experience as a whole.

Plus, y'know, diversity is the spice of life. Imagine how boring the world would be if everyone were perfectly vanilla.

*(It wasn't "Neanderthal", it was actually something much more hilariously awful, but let's not go on a tangent.)

[TheKawaiiCommie]

I'm unsure why you'd need to tell family about sexual fetishes, that seems highly inappropriate. In that same vein, the key is to realize it's exactly that. It doesn't really affect your life if you don't let it.

[GREGOLE]

Generally speaking, your family doesn't need to know about your kinks. But if you DO feel somehow "wrong" for it, or are having trouble accepting yourself, turning to family isn't the worst idea in the world. Family are supposed to be the ones you can turn to when you're in trouble.

The reality doesn't always live up to that. But you know your family better than we do.

[Vorachist22]

I'm unsure why you'd need to tell family about sexual fetishes, that seems highly inappropriate. In that same vein, the key is to realize it's exactly that. It doesn't really affect your life if you don't let it.

A family member found some of my drawings and confronted me about it. They asked me many questions about them so I explained it to them.

[Borealis]

Connecting with people online under at least a veneer of anonyminity. I don't mean any offence to those who do disclose this freely to platonic friends and family but this is not for me at all. I like talking about vore and similar things but I'd rather put an Umbreon profile picture up on a discord account and chat there to people who, for the most part, don't even know what I look like behind the screen.

I am single at the moment but have 3 exes from long term relationships, only one of them had what I would call minor reservations about this stuff, the other two did not really care and both actively tried to play around with it a bit to varying extents. One of these was someone I met online who already liked anthro/feral stuff (but not vore, macro or related) but the others were (for want of a better term) regular women who lived locally.

Realising that while its still reasonably uncommon, I'm not a one in a billion super special rarity. When I was younger before I discovered this on the internet it was genuinely quite a lonely feeling but there's definitely a safety in numbers element to vore in an online community sense. I like it how we're pretty big and well-catered for, with some quality content creators.

Just not taking it so seriously, or getting overly emotionally invested in vore. When I was younger I thought it was a pretty Big Deal which would affect relationships, and how I connect with people. Now that I'm thinking of vore less as an affliction or a character flaw, I just find it a funny, weird and nonsensical thing I just happen to have.

[EmilyNidhoggr]

I don't know if I've ever thought about "making peace" with the fetish. For me, the fetish is the peace. It's how I made peace with childhood nightmares about giants and dragons; it's how I made peace with the young adult social world where being cute and dainty was the mandate of heaven while I was a towering, gluttonous behemoth; and it's how I've made peace with the ravenous war of all against all underlying everything.

Being able to look at the horror of live digestion (really the perfect encapsulation of the state of nature) and say yes, that's what life is, that's what I am, and good, I love it, shovel it into me; means that my altruistic, temperate self isn't really in a serious war with my gluttonous, depraved self, more like they're dancing, trying playfully to extinguish each other while knowing they never can as long as I'm alive. If that isn't peace, I don't know what is.

People here saying meeting the community made them feel less alone, I'm glad to hear it. I don't know if I feel the same way- I think the community has overall made me feel more alone because its priorities seem so different from my own, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Certainly finding a small audience who likes what I draw motivating me to do it more, has been very helpful in maturing and expanding the dimensions of my B side personality.

Anyway I hope you figure it out.

[AeriaGloris]

I strongly believe that a Vore fetish, like all paraphilia, is inherited at birth. It can only create cognitive dissonance to try bury something like that. Just as we no longer pray away the gay, we should learn as a society to be more accepting of all fetishes and sexualities so long as they are practiced safely. Outside of pure cannibalism, Vore is entirely fantasy. Roleplay, reading or watching hurts nobody. Just as playing violent video games doesn't make you spontaneously murder people, Vore doesn't make you a psychopath.

You're ok.

[Pheromones]

Humans are weird creatures and personally I feel like everyone has something eyebrow raising going on at some point in their lives. This is why personally I don't mind having this fetish as long as I keep being a reasonable, level-headed person. It is however important to keep this fetish a fantasy though because I don't think anything healthy comes out of it otherwise, but that seems to be a topic aside from the point here.

That said, I'm a fairly private person and while I love this fetish, I don't make it my person. I never told anyone and don't feel the need to either. I also think it would lead to a very awkward conversation and would rather avoid the potential judgmental damage from certain folks in my surrounding as I know they are not very open minded. This is not to say they are bad people, just people that would not be interested in hearing what I have to say about the fetish and might think I'm weird.

It sucks you got caught but in your shoes I'd just hope that they would be understanding that it's something that remains fantasy and that they don't see you as someone defined by it. When it comes to family, what happens in bed should stay in bed. If they ask further about it after the initial conversation, it's ok to say no... because you don't ask about theirs either.

[TheDragonBoy]

I’m sorry to hear you’ve ended up in a position where yourself or others have made you feel like that. The only advice I can give is to try to understand yourself and those you’ve told. For me, I don’t at all view vore as something I “have to accept” about myself- like it’s something bad I have to bear. It’s an interest of mine. I’ve taken the time to look at it and my interest in it and honestly come to the conclusion that there’s nothing seriously wrong with it. I particularly like the way GREGOLE put it:

completely harmless if you exercise the barest amount of common sense

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That *might not* be the case for you, for all I know. Take a look at it for yourself, list out what’s actually harmful about vore and your involvement in it. List out what’s good or pleasurable about it too. Look at *why* you think the harmful aspects are harmful and the good factors are good. See exactly what, if anything, you have to feel bad about. Then look at why others are upset about it and see if you can understand why, and see if you agree with their reasoning- they might have reacted out of instinct or lack of understanding and not really bothered to look at things either.

Or do none of that, it’s just random internet advice after all. Either way, hope things get better for you. Good luck.

[empatheticapathy]

I don't tell anyone because sexuality is private, and it's MY business and nobody else's. In any circumstance.
Beyond that, it has no bearing on real life, so it doesn't matter. It's purely 1000% a fantasy, with no moral or ethical component. It doesn't say anything about my character any more than my favorite color does.

[BadlyDrawnDedede]

Long story short (and I know I'm kinda beating the dead horse from what folks said before), vore is usually nothing but a harmless quirk. You develop it at a young age, and there's really nothing you can do to stop it; It's hard to fight something that's mentally engrained since the beginning of life.

That said, the big thing is not to let it get in the way of anything other than private time. The reason why most the world views us as freaks is because certain individuals show no self-control and blast this shit for the entire human race to see. And, naturally, when people don't understand something, they automatically label it as bad (especially when links are drawn to something as taboo as cannibalism). For myself and 99% of the community though, we can still go about our daily lives and have meaningful social interactions without feeling the need blab or bring anything vore-related into that time.

So, in short, there's no shame in enjoying something purely fantasy-related (like many other people do, it's not just vore) as long as you show self-control and restraint. Unless people really feel the hankering to know, there's not much of a need to share it. And if you find that your fetish is overtaking your life, that's when you need to start feeling some remorse and go see a medical professional. There are medicines and procedures that can get rid of those urges if you're that far off the deep end.

[Skittles209]

Fetish not an obsession.

[Tassie]

You're a freak, you're weird.
Just like girls that must have the PERFECT shoes or eyeshadow for every outfit, just like the guys that are obsessed with their raised pickups and pimped-out classic cars, just like people that are into feet or leather or whatever or furries.
Unless this is absolutely consuming your life, then don't worry about it.

Since you 'came out' to your family about it, if some uncomfortable questions is the worst of it, then I envy you; seriously, if you're not into cannibalism or torture and death for real, and you know that it's just a silly fantasy that can't happen for real, then you're weird as any healthy, normal person, if just in a harmlessly usual way.

I know my family, and I know they wouldn't be okay with me and my weirdness, so I just keep it quiet. My uncle and aunt would probably kick me out and my mum would totally freak, so this is just my strange little secret. God I hope they never find out!
My boy found some, er, 'stuff' on my old computer, but a week-long panic attack seems to be the worst of that, so I'm hoping and praying on that.

I know I'm weird. That's just how I am.
Sorry I'm not any better help.

[Nautila]

everybody is into different junk, even lots of people just repress the hell out of it and pretend thats normal.

There's nothing wrong with you. You don't have anything to be ashamed of. It sucks that circumstances demanded that you had to explain this to family because thats awkward as fuck, but even so, you can move past that. No different than your family finding any other fetish content or a stash of porn at your place. Awkward, uncomfortable for everyone involved, but not a sign of anything weird or broken about ya.

You're normal. Just relax and accept yourself.

[lynxmeat]

i think as long as vore isn't on the level of obsession, to the point where it's consuming your life you should be fine. what's your buisness is your buisness, no matter how much your family tries to pry into it. like someone else said, what you do in the bedroom stays there and it's not for them to know that especially when you don't pry into theirs.

you aren't a freak for liking it, nor are you quite normal. nobody is normal with a weird fetish like this, but you shouldn't put yourself down for it. you can't change yourself to not have the fetish no matter how much you try to bury it and trust me i've tried and can tell you it does NOT work and will only leave you with more self hatred for a normal thing. as long as it doesn't consume your life, you're okay. everyone has weird stuff that turns them on whether they'd want to admit it or not. nobody is truly "normal" and everything in the bedroom whether it's just vanilla to kinky shit like this will always be seen as a taboo topic to those who don't want to discuss it.

accepting the fact that you cannot change this part of yourself and that it IS a harmless thing is the best way to accept it. none of this can be preformed IRL man. it's just a weird fantasy some of us have becuz of some wires crossing in our brain. you'll be fine, and my apologies to having to come out to your family with a personal thing like this

[Vorachist22]

thank you to everyone that responded.